Sex Ed Thread Seven: Gay Marriage for Everyone!

[aPawnAscending]

Okay, a few things. Wow I really should be more involved in this thread for reasons.
Two, I have discovered or realized or accepted a good number of things about myself relatively recently. Though to be honest I kinda guessed that me being biromantic was a thing I am certainly not interested in guys physically. Like, nope their bodies do not interest me.. HOWEVER romance and feelings and the ACT of loving sort of turns me on. I guess romance is sort of a kink with me, like I seem to be way more excited about that part than normal? Like the romance ITSELF I'll find way more appealing. Like, I've had sex a few times, but the times I did without a strong romance made me feel like garbage. Or getting myself off without the implication of a romance in whatever I am getting off to will make me feel terrible. I CANNOT ENJOY MYSELF if there's not romance and intimacy. Which is actually kinda cute I think... Anyways, I guess I COULD get with a guy if he was really good with me romantically. Like if he isn't overly masculine (because, that would start just.... turning me off, no offense) and really intimate and romantic... he COULD possibly get lucky with me. That is all theoretical and all and I am seldomly interested in guys and probably will never get the chance to see that happen. Not that that's too big of a deal. Just... interesting. I've only had girlfriends to this point and it's probably going to stay that way but you know... there's a chance.
Also, with these kinks you guys are talking about. Oh hey, necks. Necks are a thing I like I found out. Like... really really like. Necks, and biting, and getting intimate and nibbling and stuff.

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AND I have a couple pantie/stocking related fetishes but whatever.

Wow... that was a lot of stuff out of no where. Good evening ladies and gents. Hope you enjoyed all that.

[safetyboots]

So, not to derail the thread, but I feel like this article needs to be discussed.

Isn't sexuality something complex and fluid? Reparative therapy is a big load of bullshit, anyway.

Apparently an author charted every single fetish and categorized them.

Nope, not every single one. Besides, I disagree with the classification method used. Not that I know anything about this, of course.

Shifting the topic, how exactly do you all define agenderism?

What does "man" and "woman" mean? This question always accompanied me.

[TroubleSquared]

Agenderism is just... Not identifying with any gender, right?

[Lann]

HOWEVER romance and feelings and the ACT of loving sort of turns me on. I guess romance is sort of a kink with me, like I seem to be way more excited about that part than normal? Like the romance ITSELF I'll find way more appealing. Like, I've had sex a few times, but the times I did without a strong romance made me feel like garbage. Or getting myself off without the implication of a romance in whatever I am getting off to will make me feel terrible. I CANNOT ENJOY MYSELF if there's not romance and intimacy. Which is actually kinda cute I think...

Wow... that was a lot of stuff out of no where. Good evening ladies and gents. Hope you enjoyed all that.

I never spoke about this to anyone, I suppose, but I used to get reeal aroused out of just hearing (sometimes even reading, on a text) my girlfriend telling me she loves me. Like... yeah.
I never heard of anyone with something like this before, I thought it was just me being too needy.

[aPawnAscending]

I never spoke about this to anyone, I suppose, but I used to get reeal aroused out of just hearing (sometimes even reading, on a text) my girlfriend telling me she loves me. Like... yeah.
I never heard of anyone with something like this before, I thought it was just me being too needy.

Haha, nope.. It's totally a thing apparently. Honestly, as things go, it's not too bad of a thing. I like this thing and I like having this thing.

[Wiwaxia]

Oh hey, it's kinkchat again!

With a chart! Hmm, let's see.

Human parrots?? I mean, I know petpley, but that's usually cats and dogs and horses and whatnot.

And I can personally verify that this chart is in no way complete. I'm kinda baffled that they got "cars stuck in mud" and missed rape roleplay and forced orgasm.

Actually, there seems to be no D/s on there at all. And bondage should really be separate from S/M.
Disappointing. Very, very disappointing.

[Hatman Hatmyth Hatlegend]

Isn't sexuality something complex and fluid? Reparative therapy is a big load of bullshit, anyway.

End of fucking story.

Actually, there seems to be no D/s on there at all. And bondage should really be separate from S/M.
Disappointing. Very, very disappointing.

They barely touch on roughness/violence-related kinks. Not all of them should go into BDSM regardless. The relation I have to sadomasochism is the same I got when sleeping with other dudes. Switch within the same relation if possible. And even then it's pretty much spanking and backscratching only.

[Graknorke]

I don't really get identifying as something as a concept in general.
I just kind of identify as myself. I am me is myself. It seems really strange to me that people really invest so much of their sense of self into things about themselves like what category of person they're attracted to, or which particular set of reproductive organs they possess or feel like they should possess. Obviously these things would influence actions, but it just feels unusual to empathise with a person who values some feature like that to the point where it makes a core part of their personality.

[chimaeraUndying]

On a very fundamental and cynical level, it, like everything else, allows people to find others with similar interests an potentially mates.

On a more sensible level, people like identifying as things because it gives them a group to associate themselves with - nobody likes to be alone.

[Plaid]

So guys I might have just set in motion some things that will lead to me discussing my (a)sexuality and my relationship with my (also ace) boyfriend on national television. Also being filmed when he visits in a weeks time, as we are long distance.

Little bit freaked out.

[aPawnAscending]

Plaid that sounds crazy and fantastic. Good luck!

[wrinklefudger]

So guys I might have just set in motion some things that will lead to me discussing my (a)sexuality and my relationship with my (also ace) boyfriend on national television. Also being filmed when he visits in a weeks time, as we are long distance.

Little bit freaked out.

don't worry, it will go great. just remember the golden triad you have standing beside you: Sherlock Holmes, The Doctor, and Sheldon Lee Cooper. These three will be your guardian angels.

[Varkarrus]

So guys I might have just set in motion some things that will lead to me discussing my (a)sexuality and my relationship with my (also ace) boyfriend on national television. Also being filmed when he visits in a weeks time, as we are long distance.

Little bit freaked out.

in the name of asexuals everywhere...

godspeed...


also make sure to mention some asexuals don't feel romantic attraction... For my sake?

[Plaid]

in the name of asexuals everywhere...

godspeed...


also make sure to mention some asexuals don't feel romantic attraction... For my sake?

I certainly will (and already have). Trying to represent everyone positively, here. :>

[Selcouth]

So guys I might have just set in motion some things that will lead to me discussing my (a)sexuality and my relationship with my (also ace) boyfriend on national television. Also being filmed when he visits in a weeks time, as we are long distance.

Little bit freaked out.

Oh man that sounds awesome. Just wondering, what sort of program is it that you're discussing asexuality on? (Nat Geo, Anderson Cooper, Dr. Phil, Oprah.... :P)

[chimaeraUndying]

Be sure to post a link to a web version of it when it's done :

[TwoKillerMockingbirds]

Yes. Please. Want to see. Go forth and represent for us, Plaid

We're behind you~!

[Plaid]

Oh man that sounds awesome. Just wondering, what sort of program is it that you're discussing asexuality on? (Nat Geo, Anderson Cooper, Dr. Phil, Oprah.... :P)

It's a sort of newsy program where they do stories about people? I'm terrible at explaining this, haha. Human interest stuff, i guess.

[Drillgorg]

Is it in English?

[Plaid]

I live in New Zealand Of course it's in english.

[Miraculous]

I live in New Zealand Of course it's not in english.

Fixed.

I apologise, but I think I've been developing an Australia-New Zealand rivalry fetish as of late. It's definitely a real thing I am adding to my already absurd list of things that get me off.

[Drillgorg]

My bad I had your nationality mixed up with someone from Sweden!

[Plaid]

I suppose I should be concerned that I sound like a non native speaker. XD

Miraculous: Don't make me mention the pavlova

[Jetroid]

It seems like I'm always coming here with problems and never answers, but that's how I roll, I guess...

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Anyway, a few months ago I re-became friends with my online-friend who I used to design video game levels with back in the day. However, I also found that he is now a she. This wasn't and isn't a problem in any way. She still maps occasionally and is also delving into music. We began to discuss things, what had changed, etc, and reminiscing over how we used to discuss that we'd be roomies sometime. Anyway, she told me after a few weeks that she hates her life as it is - her dorm-mates aren't comfortable with her being Trans, so she has to dress as male. She's getting threatening messages and even an attempt on her life... and as such her grades are suffering. I tried to help her through this as best I could, but it's still been mounting up on her, to the point where she admits to self harm and regularly makes dark comments about suicide... She's reached the point where she said that the only thing positive in her life was her discussions with me, and that she wishes she could find someone like me in real life to comfort her in real life. At this point I joked that maybe we should reconsider the roomie thing.

So it became a routine thing that we'd discuss jokingly or semi-serious vague future plans of meeting each other and being cuddlebuddies or something, which I would be okay with. However, recent comments by her lead me to think that her feelings towards me have moved away from Platonic and towards Romantic. I mean, I have utterly no confirmation on this, just a few comments, which may or may not be in jest. Eg: "if my heart wasn't set on Jet", roleplaying that we get married and "I never told you how I felt, and I'm not going to because it'll freak you out." The last seems to confirm it, or at least imply strongly, especially in the context it was used (long story) but again I can't confirm 100%. She seems to be very attached to me at the least -she constantly comments on how I'm smart, and cute and adorable (which I often correct to adorabloodthirsty. ), whilst also commenting on how she isn't, and how she isn't going to go anywhere in life...

Now, If she was developing feelings, I don't think I'd be okay with it. (-Not because she's Trans - I'm fine with that detail) It sounds horrible and I feel horrible saying it, but I've never been in this situation before. For me, there just isn't romantic feelings there, and I wouldn't want my first true relationship to be a long-distance lie. However, it also poses a conundrum - If she were to tell me it for sure, I wouldn't know what to do. If I reject her, not only would we both feel bad about it, but I'm worried she might do something stupid. :/ If I accepted, I wouldn't be okay with it, and would have to lie through my teeth and feel sucky about it. Otherwise, it'd just be awkward and probably wouldn't work out and she might still end up doing something stupid.

So I come, yet again, to this thread seeking advice. Ideally, It'd be great if anyone had any tips about her 'bullying' (threatening) problem as everything I have suggested she shot down pretty quick, however the main thing I am concerned about is how you folks think I should react if it does come to a decision like that.

I just don't know what to do. :s

[wrinklefudger]

Okay, so wow, I don't know where to begin. Today I went to a homestuck meetup. It was originally intended to be a halloween party, but due to stuff it turned into just a bunch of people in cosplay walking around DC's museum district. There were a lot of nice people there, but one girl caught my eye. I don't normally remember names, faces or anything else about people I have only met once before, but I instantly recalled her name, face, major(the same as mine), who she cosplayed as, etc. We talked a lot today, and while we barely know each other, I can't help but consider her a romantic option. I am probably not in my right mind lately, although I feel I was lucid today, but the fact remains that I do feel attracted to her, and I would prefer not to drive her away. I feel like if I fuck up, it will be very bad for my emotional state, hence I would prefer to stick to low-stakes interactions. The one thing I worry about is that if I wait too long I may lose my chance. blurgh, why do I have to make every good thing into a problem?